On this my birthday, I feel I should impart some crone-like wisdom. Well, I’m still learning to navigate life myself, but one thing struck me yesterday. You see, I had become all worked up over folks who seem to get ahead while acting like victims, when in reality they are full of straight white privilege—and are so not victims. If you’re someone who feels oppressed by having to act like a decent human towards marginalized people, then you’re not really a human I want to associate with.
It’s hard to make a name for yourself as an emerging author. There is a lot of content out there; at times it’s easy to feel pushed by the wayside. Libraries might not consider you if you’re not reviewed by certain publications. But you still try to fight the good fight and stay positive. My favourite thing about my author’s journey so far is meeting all the wonderful writers out there. This year in particular I’ve had so much fun in Twitter chat groups for authors. I love answering the same questions with them and finding out their takes and experiences. I also adore meeting authors and buying their books. I think I might be someone who only wants to read from writers I’ve met in some way or form. It’s kind of nice to have that connection. I feel like I’m supporting the community!
But if I lose track of the good things by focusing on the authors who purposefully write hurtful garbage that becomes bestsellers, I can go into a tailspin of resentment. That’s no place I want to be. My goal is to keep writing and meeting other authors, to encourage them and learn from them. That is where my happiness comes from. Never mind those Nasties. I don’t want to waste spoons on them. I don’t want to support their work. The humans I like are those who strive to be kind to people, who grow from their mistakes, and want to learn to be better people every day. Flawed as I am, I really want to be this type of person, too.
Anyway, I’m going to keep my eyes on my joy. I am surrounded by such amazing people from all walks of life. They are my treasures. And my disabled buddies keep me going. We are so strong together.
I think the best way to beat the Nasties is by doing good. If we all choose to build and not destroy, then the Nasties cannot win. They just look ridiculous and immature.
Find your heart people. Those who value you and whom you cherish. When the Nasties try to weigh you down, remember who you are. There’s no use sinking to their level. You’re above that. Stay on the non-Nasty path.
I’d rather be not-so-famous and live a life full of love, friendship, and good books to read. Asshattery is not a lifestyle choice I subscribe to, or ever will.
So, that’s all I wanted to share. Here’s to your staying awesome!
*salutes with a cupcake*
Cait Gordon is the author of Life in the ’Cosm, a story about a little green guy who’s on a quest to save half the person he loves. Cait has recently submitted the prequel to ’Cosm called The Stealth Lovers, a military space opera about legendary warriors Xaxall Knightly and Vivoxx Tirowen. When she’s not writing, she’s editing manuscripts for indie authors and running The Spoonie Authors Network, a blog whose contributors manage disabilities and/or chronic conditions. She also really likes cake.